What would it take for us to speak these words and truly mean them?
Imagine that you are at the end of your life. You are reviewing all of the events in your personal history. What do you want to have seen, done, known, understood and accomplished?
What do you think that you'll regret if you don't go for it now? What are the things that you are doing now that don't really matter in the grand scheme of your life?
A hospic nurse wrote a book where she details her observations in the last 12 weeks of life, entitled "The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying" - here they are:
1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
2. I wish I hadn't worked so hard.
3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.
4. I wish I'd stayed in touch with my friends.
5. I wish that I'd let myself be happier.
As I was contemplating this list, I realized that regrets #2, 3, 4 and 5 are all a result of regret #1.
Let's break this down a bit...
If we are doing work that we enjoy and makes us happy, we never work a day in our lives! Work won't be so "hard" and even when it is we know that it is worth it because it matters to us. The Mystery Schools have called this "Life Purpose" or our calling. It fulfills a deep yearning within when we are in alignment with and doing this type of work. We will feel the most joy that is possible when in alignment with our Life Purpose. The Life Activation is the first step towards finding and aligning with your Life Purpose, through unlocking the physical and spiritual DNA to allow greater access to our gifts and deeper understanding of our true selves.
When we are doing work we love, we aren't afraid to express our feelings and emotions. Why? Because our priorities are in order. We understand what's truly important and we aren't afraid to express ourselves. Our emotions are connected to a source of truth within, and these are really valid to pay attention to. Of course there is a balance, and the mind/intellect must be weighed against the feelings/emotions in order to have a balanced and harmonious life.
Also, this prioritization allows us to connect. We tend to withdraw when we don't feel like we're measuring up to some mark or goal. It's a tendency to "hide" or go inward. This isn't a bad impulse at all, in fact, it helps us to reconnect within to our true selves - if we allow ourselves the time and space to turn inwards and do that work. Unfortunately, there are so many distractions in the modern world it's so easy to become trapped in old habits and patterns or addictions or watching TV and scrolling through social media as a distraction, rather than do our own inner work to become clear about our lives and then connect with others from an empowered state of being. Can you imagine what those relationships would then look like?!
And finally - happiness comes from within and being here in the now moment. We tend to rush around and be really busy, or indulge in the many forms of distraction which prevent us from being truly present in our lives. But true happiness is felt in the moment, being present with all of our senses. And again, it's much more appealing to be present in life when we are doing fulfilling work and connected with that source of joy within!
Through meditation - and other methods such as the Life Activation Session and teachings and tools of transformation in the Empower Thyself Program - we can begin to transform our lives and ensure that we have no regrets!!
In my experience, living with no regrets isn't about making bold moves or taking big risks - though these can sometimes be a part of the process. It's about knowing oneself as fully as possible and living from the most authentic self and be able to stand fully in the light with no blame, shame or guilt. "This is me. This is who I am, and I am constantly evolving." And it really does take dedication, determination and practice to live in that state.
Sending you Love and Light,
Guide, Healer & Teacher
in the Lineage of King Salomon
p.s. I am offering FREE Online Meditations every Wednesday during the Stay at Home / Stay Safe order. Take a look at our calendar of events.
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